How to Change Yourself. Life Skills Training
I’ve got a quote for you that drives home a message that is crucial to you optimizing yourself, your daily life experience and your ultimate success in life.
The video is only about 7 – 8 minutes and there will be an exercise for you at the end, so you can actually make use of the information in this life quotes video.
Information without implementation is useless information. And without ritualistic practice, we rarely, if ever, implement useful, new information... So please stick around please for the exercise if you truly want to get the most from and for yourself.
Today’s words, today’s life quote, you can use to inspire yourself is one of my own. And it is:
“Be careful what you look for and expect. You will find it, create it or imagine it to have happened.”
~ Christopher Babson
Personal Change is Science: Neurological & Psychological
Neuroscience tells us that our brains naturally, inherently, seek threats and seek the path of least resistance. While this tendency served our species highest interest of survival on the savannah 500,000 years ago, neither of these things serves our highest purposes in modern society and we are best served recognizing and managing this natural function of our brains.
When we seek threats, we are looking for, and probably expecting, threats to materialize.
I want to be safe. I also want you to be safe. But…
I also want you and me to be and live our greatest, highest self and life. And I know you do too.
How to Change Yourself: Take Control of Your Thoughts, Take Control of Your Life
Our habitual thoughts are our experience of reality. What we look for and expect is our reality in the moment. And it is what we will ultimately find, create or imagine to have happened. If we master what we think about, look for and believe, we can master our lives.
Our habitual thoughts are not only our experience in the here and now, they are also precursors to our actions. And our habitual actions are what manifest most of our largest life results, regardless of what we might imagine to be true.
What Do You Want From Your Life?
Let me ask you: What would you like your daily, moment by moment, life reality to be?
Would you like it to be that which you fear?
Or would you like it to be that which you desire?
And what results would you like your habitual thoughts to produce? That which you fear? Or that which you most desire?
How We Create Our Lives
Our beliefs and expectation are our experience of reality in the here and now. And they also give rise to our habitual actions, which otherwise create much of our actual reality.
What we believe to be true is true for us and shapes how we see other things – in fact, how we see everything.
Our beliefs also determine all actions we take.
This isn’t to say that some things happen over which we have little to no apparent control. But even in these instances, we have absolute control over the meaning or interpretation we give events.
One person might look at an unwanted event or circumstance as a challenge to become stronger, more determined and to prevail. To overcome. To win. Whereas another person might choose to define the same event or circumstance either as proof they cannot win, are a victim or must give up and resign themselves to the effects of the unwanted event or circumstances.
Each of these people will have a life experience in the moment that is uniquely different in quality and content from the other person. And each of them is likely to have very different ultimate outcomes, or life results, as a result of the beliefs they assigned to their circumstances.
How to Change Yourself: Identify & Manage Your Perception of Reality
It’s important for us to become consciously aware of our beliefs. Including our highest values. Those things in life we most value and most need in order to live our richest, most fulfilling, successful life possible. And the sad truth is, most people don’t really know exactly who they are and what they want. They only know they want “more.” More money, more love, more sex, more of the obvious things.
But just wanting more, is like stepping out of your home one morning deciding you want to be on vacation somewhere awesome. But you don’t know exactly where you want to go, why you want to go there or how you might get there. You just begin to wander, wanting to be somewhere else.
Well the likelihood you will ever get where you want to go is zero to none. Even if you happened to stumble upon where you most want to be in 20 years, you might not even know it, because you might not recognize it.
Personal Development Exercise -- How to Change and Take Control of Your Life
Okay… Here's your assignment for this short video:
1. First, be explicitly clear in exactly who you are. What your highest values are. Who you must be, how you must live, what you must contribute and achieve in your life for your life to have been a huge, meaningful success.
2. Second… Set your smart phone to go off every half hour, all day, for the entire day for five days. Pick at least one day when you aren’t working. Pick days that cover as broad a representation of your complete life as possible. Rather than say consecutive, typical days at work, when you are likely to think, believe, feel and otherwise experience pretty much the same things. Whenever your phone alarm goes off you must answer the following questions – and write your answers down:
For the past half-hour, what were my:
b. Emotional state(s)?
c. Activities ?
d. Were each of these the absolute highest and best investment of my limited life and time?
e. Was I being my highest and best person?
f. What would my highest thoughts, behaviors or actions have been? What will it cost me and my loved-ones not to change this? What will we gain by my changing it?
Personal Power & Ownership of Responsibility
One quick caveat: Often we must do things that appear to have no direct relationship to our highest selves or purpose and that’s ok. We often have personal responsibilities that, in order to be our highest self within the context of our responsibilities, require us to do something that doesn’t necessarily bear a strong correlation with us being our highest and best selves as we aspire to.
For example, you may be in work or a job you know isn’t your highest and best use, life or goal. I would suggest you find a way to responsibly move yourself into a situation where you are contributing, growing, being and doing your highest self, mission and contribution. But, until you can do that, you do owe a responsibility to serve your current employers, customers and other stakeholders, including any family members you are economically responsible for.
Continue to be your best self within your current responsibilities, as you continue to find ways to reach higher levels and areas of personal work and expression.
Don’t be hard on yourself if you are living up to your responsibilities to others. This is an important part of us actually being and living our highest selves and lives.
On the other hand, don’t use this as a cop-out and avoidance mechanism for avoiding your highest responsibility to yourself to craft and create your greatest self and life of meaning and contribution.
Please put this in your smart phone right now. Information without implementation is useless. Without ritualistic implementation, you won’t change your habitual beliefs, behaviors or actions. So please do it now.
Live, love and succeed with passion, purpose and positive personal power my friends.